“I Cannot Forgive Them For Hurting Me!” | How To Forgive others

 

 

 

 

“I CANNOT FORGIVE THEM FOR HURTING ME!”

 

 

 

 

 

Today, I would like to talk to you about forgiving & forgetting. 

 

I know, I’ve got to be kidding right? 

 

 

 

 

After all you have been through, the pain, the anger, the hurt, & now I want to talk about forgiving. 

 

 

 

 

Yes, I do because forgiving is very important, for you.

 

When my life was such a mess in my life, I was angry all the time, mad at everything & everyone, but I never knew why. 

 

 

 

 

The subconscious part of your mind / brain being the most powerful, not the conscious mind, but the sub-conscious. 

 

 

 

 

That sub-conscious area of your brain is where all the anger, the hurt, disappointment, grief & sorrow is stored & it remembers all. 

 

You should also know, the subconscious mind is the hardest part to clean out & has to be done on a regular basis.

 

 

 

 

So, I want you to know, to forgive another person, is the greatest favor you can do;  for yourself. 

 

 

 

 

You have to forgive them & you have to forget it in order to move forward. 

 

Once you forgive someone, let it all go & do not ever go back to that stuff, ever. 

 

 

 

 

That is how you keep the dragging negatives out of your subconscious mind, you have to forget about it in order to move on.

 

 

 

 

 

Here are a few ideas that helped me to forgive, forget & move on:    

 

 

 

 

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How to forgive others

 

 

 

YOU have to take the initiative.  

 

Don’t wait for the other person to apologize. 

Do it now, do it sincerely & move on.

 

 

 

 

Be patient.   

If the hurt is deep, which I’m sure it is, you can’t forgive in a single instant. 

Just give yourself time to work through it in a positive way.

 

 

 

 

If the forgiven person wants to reenter your life, it’s fair to demand truthfulness & time.   

He / She should be made to understand, to feel the hurt you’ve felt, from your perspective. 

Then you should expect a sincere promise that you won’t be hurt that way again. 

HOWEVER, if he/she has does this repeatedly before, you need time to think about this very carefully. 

People who are hurting you over & over, are NOT going to change or they would have by now. 

They speak empty promises & will only hurt you again and again. 

This is the time you have to walk away & do not turn back, ever.

 

 

 

 

Forgive retail not wholesale.   

This is an old psychology saying of which I’ll explain here. 

It is almost impossible to forgive someone for being a bad person (as a whole). 

Instead, focus on the particular act that hurt you (the retail: what they did or gave to hurt you this time). 

Although, if this person has a tendency to do this a lot to you or to others frequently, they are not a good person for you to be associated with.

They’ve developed a pattern & you may need to let them go.

 

 

 

 

Don’t expect too much.   

To forgive, doesn’t mean you must renew a once close relationship. 

Every time someone hurts you more than once, they’re developing a pattern. 

To be hurt by them again & again is not normal nor is it healthy. 

No one should be in such an unhealthy relationship, so take your time & think clearly. 

You have to do wants best for you, you’re not on this earth to be treated disrespectfully.

 

 

 

 

Separate your anger from hate.  

 

To dissolve your hate, you must face your emotion & accept it as natural response. 

Then discuss it, either with the person or object of your hatred (and yes you can do this without escalating the hatred again, by controlling yourself). 

Or, you can discuss this with an objective trusted third party.

 

 

 

 

Forgive yourself.   

This, may be the hardest of all for you to do. 

Sincerity is critical here. 

Admit your fault in the interaction or act. 

Give up your struggle to be perfect, then, be very specific & concrete about what is bothering you. 

It may be, their act or words of what hurt you were evil. 

But remember, you are not an evil person, you are not going to hold on to this hurt.

You are going to forgive, forget, & move on. 

 

 

 

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“I forgive people, but that doesn’t mean I accept their behavior or trust them anymore. 

I forgive them for me, so I can let go & move on with my life”…

 

 

 

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I do hope you have enjoyed this message today & it has inspired you do stand up & make a difference in your own life.  Please feel free to leave me a comment below to share how this has made you think about your own situation.

 

 

 

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