How many times have you volunteered & said “Yes, or, I’ll do it, I’ll make that for you, What can I do, Sure I’ll be happy to help”……. & the list goes on.
Now, after you said yes to someone or something, did you regret it?
Did you gamble away your time, are you burning the candle at both ends, all because you didn’t think about it first?
Saying yes, to help someone is such a selfless noble offer & many of us say yes without thinking twice, because of course we want to help.
But, if you have said “yes” to someone, only to find that you never had the time or inclination in the first place, it’s quite uncomfortable isn’t it.
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So, what are you suppose to do when you’re trying to do the right thing & help others?
When you are asked or even volunteer to do something, to commit yourself, you first need to ask yourself a few questions, before you say yes.
Stop & ask yourself these questions first:
Do I really understand this commitment?
Do I have the time, energy, & the resources?
How does this fit into my current goals & priorities right now?
What impact will this have on me in, 3 or 6 months, a year, 5 years, in 10 years?
How will this time spent, impact those close to me in my life?
Who will this help, of those I love?
Could someone else, do this better?
Do I really want to say yes?
Do I honestly have the energy, drive & passion to complete this?
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Don’t put all your eggs is one basket without thinking about it first!
There are so many more questions that your individual circumstance can ask yourself. But, you can see how important it is to stop & ask yourself these questions.
If you blurt out “YES” before having time to ask yourself first, you will not be fair to only yourself, but to the people or task you have just said yes to.
Think before you speak.
Think once for yourself, think twice for your family, think a third time for those receiving your commitment.
Play your cards right & don’t gamble away your time & energy without careful thought.
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WOW!!! Those are some pretty deep and far reaching questions Linda! Thought provoking … I see that I’ve said yes to some things that in hindsight I really should have said no to as I didn’t to ask some of the questions you’ve mentioned above.
Thank you once again for opening my eyes!
That’s so correct Erica, we are all quick to respond because we want to help, but, that commitment may need more than to the other person now they’re counting on you. YIKES. Thanks Erica for your thoughts.
Perfect post for today – must be the message that I need for today. I was listening to an audio this morning and he talked about how we need to learn to say “no”. Thank you for reaffirming this.
I need this reminder also once in a while. Thanks for sharing Kristin.
thanks for sharing this Linda. It is so true we say YES to much at the expense of our own happiness at times!
So true Morgan & who know better than you now with twins!!
Linda – this is a message for everyone on the planet. We need to keep this message in our back pocket so we can pull it out and read it from time to time and remind ourselves there is no honor in over committing yourself. Thank you.
Nancy thank you, such a perfect statement: “there is no honor in over committing yourself”.
Great words Linda and important questions we need to ask ourselves.before committing our time and resources to any project. The old saying,”Look before you leap” comes to mind.
Stephen that is so true: “look before you leap”… Unfortunately we all do it don’t we. Thanks Stephen.