“Why Do I Always Feel Like A Failure?” | How to turn around your Failure feeling

 

“WHY DO I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE A FAILURE?”

Have you heard someone say these things:

• “Oh here we go again, they want me to do something I can’t do”…

• “This is too hard, I can’t do this”…

• “I told you I couldn’t do that”…

Of course you’ve heard those statements before? 

Maybe you may have sort of let one slip out of your mouth a time or two? 

You are not alone, many folks have used one of those statements, or others of a censored version, as a first response & reaction when given or asked to do a task for the first time.

Why?  Why would a person give up before they even start something new?

Maybe they’re lazy, not interested, dislike the task, or not want to take an assignment or someone’s orders?

Actually, none of the above. 

Although we are ALL born with the same abilities to accomplish successful achievements, over time each of us have taken the road of learned behavior & have chosen the path of doubt.

We’re ALL born with the same built in success mechanism, we don’t fear mistakes, we don’t dwell on the past mistakes, nor do we complicate things. 

If we see something we want, that sparkles, that’s shiny, that’s different, we crawl to get it, touch it or taste it.

We are born this way, ALL of us, to know that if we see something new, we move towards it, we touch it, taste it, we crawl on it or up it & do whatever it takes, so we can keep going towards new things.  We are born wanting to learn!

This born behavior to try new things without fear, has made millions of dollars for companies to “baby proof” everything, hasn’t it.

 

 

 

So, how in the world have we become such a society who is so fearful of failure?

Simply put, by negative learned behavior.  But where does learned behavior of negative failure come from? 

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“Don’t touch that it will hurt”….  “Don’t put that in your mouth it’s bad, it’ll make you sick”…..  “Get off of that, you’ll fall & break your arm or leg”…. 

“Don’t put your finger in that socket, you’ll get killed”….  “Get down from there, before you fall & break your neck”….  “Stop crying before I give you

something to cry about”….  “Clean up your room, or you won’t get your allowance”…..  “Put that down before you put your eye out”…..  “If you get a bad

report card, you’re grounded”….  “That’s hot don’t touch it you’ll get burned & hurt”….

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Touch=pain,   taste=bad,  height=fall,   plastic on wall=die,   trees=broken neck,   crying=paddling,   object to hold=lose an eye,   bad grades=no fun…… 

Negative associations & outcome failures begin at an early age of learned behavior.  Pressure, pain & fear is learned from a very early age, if we do something wrong or don’t learn it correctly. 

Although we are only trying to protect our children from getting hurt as they grow up through life, the natural response to protecting them “so they learn”, is through negative associations.

However, negative association while learning new things, has for many people resulted in their learned misinterpretation about failure.

We learn that though we’re born with the curiosity of learning new things, & a success mechanism, there comes a price of pain & failure if we try new things

What we need to learn, regardless of your age, is more about failure other than it’s “bad”.

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How to turn around your “failure” feeling

FIRST: what you need to know about FAILURE:

Failure is only a temporary setback.

Failure is never the final chapter of the book of your life, unless you give up & quit.

To fail, is not the disgrace everyone thinks it is.

To error at something, is to do nothing more than to join the human race.

To fail, is not that same as being a failure.

One may have many failings, & yet still be far from being a failure.

Nothing worthwhile is ever achieved, without running the risk of failure.

The person who risks everything to try to achieve something truly worthwhile & fails, is anything but a disgraceful failure.

Every failing brings with it, the possibilities of something greater.

Analyze failure under whatever circumstances you choose, & you will discover some seeds for turning failure into success.

Failure is a natural preparation for success.

Strange as it may seem to some of you, success is much more difficult to live with successfully, than is failure.

What you do with failures in your life, is up to you.

Failure is either a blessing or a curse, depending upon the individual’s reaction or response to it.

Failings are opportunities to learn how to do things better the next time, to learn where the pitfalls are, & how to avoid them.

The best possible thing to do with failure, is to learn all you can from it.

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Dive in, get wet, find a way to phase yourself back to your hidden curiosity & wide-eyed wonder of how things work. 

Don’t think failure before you even start or see something new.

Believe in yourself, know that you CAN do anything you set your mind to doing, & you WILL.  JUST DO IT.

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“You can’t start the next chapter of your life, if you keep re-reading your last one”…

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