How is Your Relationship?

At some point, it’s a good idea to look at your relationships closely.  Why?

Why wouldn’t you, if your relationship with someone means anything to you, why wouldn’t you want to make sure it’s going well.

You should be looking at the keys areas of a relationship to ensure that YOU are doing what you’re suppose to be doing.

So, did you think about it, how do you think you relationship is going?

Just alright!  Hmm, you need to stay with me here.

To make your relationship, marriage,  partnership, group-ship or whatever you have work,

here’s How to keep your relationship healthy:

Commitment.    True commitment means much more than simply committing to the relationship.  Genuine commitment involves being committed to the growth & best interest of the other person.  Honesty is a must in any relationship & if you can’t commit to being open & honest, you’ll never make it.

Teamwork.     Use the five (5) most important words in a relationship:  “Let’s try it your way”.

Communication.   Without exception, every relationship has struggles with effective communication.  It starts with honesty, you must be honest & open with the others in your relationship.  Hiding or omitting ‘little’ things you think are not important to you, may be to the other person.  If you do have a habit of omission of the ‘little’ things, your relationship will begin to deteriorate because you are destroying your credibility.  Be open & honest.

Meeting emotional needs.    How do you meet their emotional needs?  Simple, just ask & be prepared for their answer.  Emotional needs are about feelings & no two people are alike when it comes to feelings.  Be sensitive & respectful to theirs.

Resolving conflict.    Conflicts in a relationship is inevitable.  Fighting however, is optional.  Keep your resolution at a discussion level, giving each other an uninterrupted time to freely speak.  Listen to what each of you are saying to one another & how you’re perceived to them.  Never be confrontational & never argue.  All that wasted energy resolves nothing, & when things are said in anger, you can’t take them back, the damage is down. 

Confrontation & arguing is a sign to stop immediately.  You cannot argue about what the other person has perceived, it may not have been how you meant for something to have happened or been said, but that’s the perception the other had, which you can’t change or remove, the “movie was already released”.

So how do you resolve something that’s already been done & perceived?  Listen to their perception completely without interruption, then, offer your intended meaning of what you did/said.  Remember, it’s already done.  By laying the information of both sides on the table, leave it at that, they now know your initial intention & you know their perception.  Learn from it, let it go, & move on WITHOUT holding a grudge.

Apology & forgiveness.    On a regular basis, practice the three (3) A’s of a successful relationship;  Apologize, for something from the past, Appreciate, something from the present, & Anticipate, something from the future.  Remember, once you’ve apologized & forgiven the other person, never go back to that topic again & dig it up, you’ve just resolved it so learn from it, let it go & move on without any grudges.

Creating a relationship vision.    Ask yourself & each other this question; “If we knew we couldn’t fail, & we could design our relationship any way that we wanted it, how would WE like it to be”?

Relationships are a 2-way street, you both have a say, but you both must abide by the basics of a relationship that I’ve listed above.  It’s a beautiful thing, try it at the 100% level or not at all.

“Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer give a damn”……….

See you tomorrow……..  

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