“YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!”
Most of us think we know what love really is, don’t we.
Well, we don’t.
So many have their own idea, but when it comes right down to it, it’s like anything else, you’re own version.
Today, I’m going to just get right to it & give you the information that you can just add to your own definition of love.
But, I hope you read these words & just let each phrase soak in as you read them slowly.
See if any of these have been a part of your own life.
If they aren’t, they should be.
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HOW DO YOU KNOW, WHAT LOVE REALLY IS?
Love is a flame that warms, but never burns.
Love does not magnify defects.
Love finds the element of good, & builds on it.
Love delights in giving attention, rather than attracting it.
Love know how to disagree, without becoming disagreeable.
Love rejoices at the success of others, instead of being envious.
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Love is not about sex. Love is not about being someones #1. Love is not about being someones hero.
Love is about finding the best in others. Love is about being a giver to others. Love is about being proud of others accomplishments.
Love is always about making a difference in others lives.
“Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is”….
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What a great post. I agree with you. Love is so much more than what we typically associate it with. One of the most eye opening quotes that I completely agree with is –
“Love is the most powerful and still most unknown energy in the world”
~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
I love that quote from Pierre Teilhard de Chardin. Bam. Love is the most powerful, unknown, energy. I know from your video Kristin, you are passionate about this topic & you gave some wonderful information about it. Thank you as always for sharing your incredible insights. I love it Kristin.
Love is too big and too ambigouos of a word to throw around really…and you’re further defining statements are good ones! I would still think, my own opinion of course, that ‘falling’ is an inaccurate love statement, you grow to love another, falling in love is biological, it’s massive dopamine and it ‘feels’ like love and it feels good, so we decide later whether that person is who we grow to love and want to stay/keep in our lives (full time or part time, as both your needs require the attention)
Phenomenal input Zen, you are spot on. Studies have shown it 2-4 years before you ‘really’ know another person, 2-4 years. That in itself is a long range of time which can allow unknown things to rise to the surface. To “grow to love another” IS the most appropriate statement, I totally agree Zen The dopamine surge is temporary & in the moment is confusing as well as misleading. The numbers of those feeling guilt after, the dopamine surge is past & gone at that point, have further issues to sort out. Thank you Zen, I love your thoughts.
WOW! I’ve often asked myself, “how do you know when you’re in love”. It remains a mystery. Great post!
Beth only the individual themselves can answer that question – “how do you know when you’re in love”. There are so many variables that have to be considered & plugged in, in order to have all the ‘information’ you need. How do you know? Is it love, lust, crush, companionship,… & the list builds & builds. When you consider too, of whether the other person is being 100% themselves, 100% honest, forthcoming, etc., it’s truly a tough question & one only you can answer. I suppose that’s why there’s so many authors out there from self help, how to, all the way to romance. Makes you think nobody really knows doesn’t it. Thank you Beth.
How appropriate that you would write about this subject right now as I’m re-reading for the umpteenth Marianne Williamson’s “A Return To Love”
There is only love and fear. And what’s not love is fear.
Beautiful post Linda … as always … thank you!
Ha, who would have thought, right Erica. You’ve shared such a valuable point from Mariann Williamson: “There is only love & fear. And what’s not love is fear”. That’s a loaded statement. Because there is so much we really don’t know about love or even the other person within the first 5 years. Is it hope, wishing, exploring, reading & being dependent on the other individual to be 100% honest & forthcoming.
What we DO know through studies, it takes about 2-4+ years before you really know someone intimately well. The first couple of years consist of lust, attraction, wants, needs, desires, habits, hopes & agreeable acts in response to hormonal surges. Beyond 4 or 5 years consists of accepting the others, lust, attractions, wants, needs, desires,habits, hopes & agreeable acts in response to natural hormonal surges. This makes Marianne Williamson quote “there is only love & fear, and what’s not love is fear”, more understanding. Why, because after 4-5 years & you still don’t really know if it’s love, you will become fearful. Thank you Erica for sharing your thoughts, as always, I love it when you do.
Awesome post Linda and yes love is so much more than a lust for another person. I agree with Zen that the term “falling” when connected with love it not how it happens. My hubby and I celebrate 34 years of marriage tomorrow and I am going to blog about that. 🙂 Thanks Linda.
Love should never be taken lightly by anyone. Love is NOT about sex. People ‘fall in love’ because they ‘think’ that’s (sex) what the premiss of what love is. NO, it’s not especially for women. Whereas sex for men may be on the top 3 of their priority list. (for women it’s on the bottom 1/4). Zen’s growing point of “growing” IS a valid point & what we’re – Counselors & Therapists, are accustomed to referring to. You & your husband Sue already know, after 34 years, it first takes a few years to really know the other person that you’re sharing intimate thoughts, feelings & things with. You have done this well & I truly wish you both all the happiness in the world.
I truly loved this post. All I can add to this is “LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL”no matter what, when, how or why, true love is unconditional. Thanks Linda
Bingo Rhonda, that is the best of Love. “LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL”. Isn’t it funny how dogs have known this & given us unconditional love for centuries, but so many have yet to understand this. Thank you Rhonda for this such important note. I love it.