“I HATE YOU!”
If you are a parent, or if you yourself have EVER said those 3 words to your parent(s) at one time or another, you’ll understand this post.
After spending an entire career of taking care of patients, as a nurse, I have found the honesty of patients, real people young & old, when no one else is around.
Regardless of their age, I’ve had thousands of conversations with patients where I’ve heard real, candid, ‘from the heart’ feelings being expressed.
It never failed, people always have something on their mind, but only need someone to listen & ‘hear’ what they are saying.
Children have no fear when expressing themselves & seemed to have the least amount of hesitation to talk & speak whats on their mind, especially when they have no one to filter their thoughts.
Today, I want to share an accumulation of only some of the thousands of candid thoughts that I heard from children who were patients that just wanted to ‘speak their mind’.
However, what’s different about these real thoughts spoken & shared with me, through our conversations, they were able to actually define & explain their own statements.
Please take a moment to read these very ‘real’ candid thoughts, from the “mouths of babes”.
Some are stated sentences, some are thoughts they have for you. But however they came about, I think the message was quite clear.
AN ACCUMULATION OF REAL THOUGHTS FROM YOUR CHILDREN
Note: the content you’ll see here is real, unedited & actual thoughts &/or statements from Pediatric ages 4-18. However, some of the wording or words have been adjusted for clarification purposes only & have not effected the meaning of their statements.
Don’t forget how quickly I’m growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep up with me, but please try…
Don’t nag all the time. If you do, I will have to protect myself by appearing deaf…
Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do you will find that I stop asking & I’ll find my information somewhere else…
Don’t correct me in front of people, please. I’ll take more notice if you talk to me quietly in private…
Don’t be so inconsistent, that completely confuses me & makes me lose faith in you…
Don’t spoil me. I know that I shouldn’t have everything I ask for. I’m just testing you…
Don’t forget I need lots of love & understanding…
Don’t make rash promises. Remember, I feel badly let down when promises are broken…
Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes…
Don’t make me feel ‘smaller’ than I am. It only makes me behave like a stupid big person…
Don’t forget, I can’t explain myself as well as I want to. That’s why I’m not always very accurate…
Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer that, it makes me feel more secure…
Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real & you can do so much…
Don’t let me form bad habits. I rely on you to see them & correct them early on…
Don’t think it’s beneath you to apologize to me. You teach me to be honest & apologize when I’m wrong. I know you aren’t perfect & if you apologize to me too when you are wrong, it would make me feel so warm with you…
Don’t get too upset with my small boo boo’s. Sometimes they get me the attention I need…
Don’t ever suggest you are perfect or never make mistakes. It’s too shocking for me when I discover you are neither…
Don’t be too upset when I say “I Hate You.” It isn’t you I hate, but your power block me when I want to do something…
Now again, I haven’t changed the message, only a little adjusting of the clarification of these patients
Do I have more? Oh gosh yes, but there’s too many to share.
These expressions are just a sample of the thousands of thoughts that have really stuck out in my mind.
Children have no fear of speaking their minds.
Maybe adults should start expressing as much honesty as our children of the world…
“The way we talk to our children, becomes their inner voice”….
See you tomorrow…
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This is a great post! Anyone with kids knows this to be true.
Thank you Beth, I am glad to here you found this true as well. I appreciate your sharing this.
My son astounds me sometimes with what he says! lol It’s so true that we as adults need to learn from the uninhibited nature of children when it comes to expressing ourselves.
You’re so right Shaun. Remember a while back i wrote a post about children’s thoughts then, & I mentioned “please remember, my hands are small, so I can’t do all the things you expect me to do”….. Same Idea. Their brains are small, but their thoughts are spot on & keep up with you. Thank you Shaun.
I love this one! “Don’t spoil me. I know that I shouldn’t have everything I ask for. I’m just testing you…” I’m not a parent, and I was never spoiled as a child … but for some reason this one resonated with me most.
Beautiful post as always!
This one is interesting because parents really don’t get this. They don’t think a child would know how to do that, but, when you think about it, they know how to manipulate. So, testing the parent is really a piece of cake to them. And, they admit they do it. Thank you Erica, I always love your feed back.
where did you get this Linda, its brilliant.. I remember someone asking me ‘what do you think your daughter wants’ and I said “love and acceptance’… which is what we ALL want.. great post 🙂
Where did I get this? As the post states, these are all real statements from pediatric / children patients while I was caring for them, from the mouths of babes themselves. I’ve always had interesting conversations with patients, young & old. Patients speak honesty & freely, they have a lot to say, if people would just take the time to listen.