Do You REALLY Know About Bullying?

 

 

Unless you have been a victim of BULLYING yourself, you don’t have a clue of what this thing called BULLYING is all about.

 

Sound harsh or abrasive? 

 

 

Not at all, because BULLYING is harsh, abrasive, hurtful, painful, terrorizing, a daily nightmare, never ending hell.

How would I know?  Keep reading, it’s what you may think…

 

 

 

I was a victim of BULLYING for 17 years, & the WORDS I chose above, DO NOT EVEN SCRATCH THE SURFACE TO DESCRIBE THE HELL YOU GO THROUGH EVERYDAY!

 

Shocked?  So was I…

 

 

 

I grew up & had a wonderful family, very loving, we were all very close & would rather be home together than anywhere else in the world.

 

We did everything together as a family, including fun activities, fishing, waterskiing, travel, and even work.  My father even started my woodworking & refinishing interests in 1st grade, which spiraled into my formal training & to current work on boats & furniture through today.

 

 

 

 

Living in a tourist town where people from all over come to vacation in our town & enjoy our beautiful clear, spring fed lake, meant the city was always busy & fun with bustling activity.

 

Many of us remember those joyful, carefree, safe days growing up, when no one even locked their doors & trusted everyone, & you knew everyone. 

 

 

 

 

One spring day, my 4th grade year, as I was enjoying the outdoors, all of the beauty of this awesome city & my days of not having a care in the world, suddenly this became a day that I will never forget.

 

 

Unbeknownst to me, a neighbor boy, whom I did not know, had been watching me for a while, like a bird of prey watching his next meal source.

 

 

One day in articular, this new neighbor boy approached me to invite me to his “cool new place” he found that was “out back” & “abandoned” of another neighbors yard.  Unnerved by his invitation, since all of my neighbor friends & I played everywhere, I followed him along with interest since we all looked to explore new spots to play at.

 

 

 

 

He (Freddy, he called himself), led me to this old shed out in someone’s back field. I looked around & thought wow, my neighborhood friends would love this place & I couldn’t wait to tell everyone.

 

 

While I looked around with excitement, my imagination working like a train engine thinking about all the fun stuff all my neighborhood friends & I could all do here, in our new fun place.  Wow, I was so excited, we could climb, jump, swing, build, gather, what a cool place, this new kid, Freddy, was right, this is a “cool new place”, my friends are going to love this.

 

 

 

 

 

During my careful evaluation of this ‘cool place’, the bright interior of the neat place with the sun shinning in so brightly, suddenly changed & this ‘cool new place’ looked so different when it suddenly became dark & cold.  The beautiful sunshine that warmed the room with it’s bold stream of light, was now gone.  When I turned around, I noticed that “Freddy” had shut the rickety door & blocked the door from the inside so no one else could get in.

 

In my adolescent innocence, I had no idea why he shut the door, but, when this new neighbor called Freddy, came over to me, I had never been exposed to someone who acted in this manner, of this forcefully with his voice stern, serious, mean & bossy. 

At that very moment, I felt the joyous, warm glow of sunshine at illuminated the day, was not the only thing that went dark.  I felt a terrorizing, painful fear that this little girl had never heard of or experienced before.  It was at that moment that my beautiful, shinning, innocent, carefree, trusting world, was never the same again, EVER.

 

 

 

 

 

BULLYING, does not stop for anyone who has been the victim of a sole act of violence, assault or verbal inappropriateness.  BULLYING, once it’s started in ANY manner, without swift reporting to an authoritative source, will continue on indefinitely.

 

 

What? Wait, no, “just say no & walk away”.  Really?  Is that what you’re saying to here, to just walk away, say no, go tell your parents, or your brothers, your family or whom ever you trust?

 

No my friends, it doesn’t work that way for anyone.

 

 

 

Individuals who commit BULLYING, are preditors & they have ALL the power over you.  You are physical & mentally smothered with fear, embarrassment, humiliation & intimidation constantly.  Individuals who commit BULLYING, every second of every day have COMPLETE control over you, & your silence is demanded, ‘or else’.

 

I had an ongoing secret I could never tell, I was never free, I was forever terrorized everyday, until right now.  My family never knew, no one ever knew what was happening to me everyday, for years & years to come.  I was powered by someone whom I could not get away from nor could I find a way out.  I was not allowed to even show anyone through expression or display of character, when he wasn’t around & I was in the privacy of my own home or family’s presence, that anything was going on – daily. 

 

 

I was literally smothered with fear & intimidation.  Why?  Because ‘Freddy’ grilled into my mind on a daily basis, that he “would easily find out”, & the next acts of his torture would be worse.  Kids or victims of any age, only know the smothered instructions they’ve been given everyday, they do not know how to get free. 

 

Even after “Freddy’s” death, which I only read about in the Obituary of the local paper 2years ago, IT, the BULLYING, hasn’t nor ever will be forgotten, even today.  I am still reminded in my thoughts of those terrorizing years.

 

 

 

So BULLYING, is verbal, it’s emotional, it’s physical, it’s terrorizing, & so much more than anyone can ever imagine.  This individual who BULLIED me, followed me through college, which at that point was left to just verbally intimidation & BULLYING. 

Apparently, “Freddy” grew up or moved on, & I shuttered thinking wondering IF or of how many children he went on BULLYING after me.  I could have prevented others from being BULLIED in the future after me, but I didn’t know as a child how or what to do.

 

 

I am haunted everyday still, to this very moment by the BULLYING, & the fact I was not able to prevent him from harming anyone else after me.

 

 

 

If you, or a family member have any thoughts, act on it.  Don’t keep your thoughts to yourself.  Please leave a comment below if this story sounds familiar or just share your thoughts.  If you have personal issues that you would like to confidentially talk about, my email is at the bottom of this post.

 

 

 

“I am stronger, because I had to be”  –  Linda Frame

 

 

 

 

 

See you tomorrow……..  

 

 

 

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