“I DON’T LIKE BEING AROUND THEM!”
You get along with everyone don’t you?
You have a lot of friends & acquaintances right?
Maybe not, it’s still okay.
Whether you have a ton of friends or one, it makes no difference here today.
Just take a moment & think about your interactions with these friends, acquaintances, coworkers, whomever.
What you don’t know, is how you may come across to them, their perception of you & your personality.
Think about that, it’s not as important of how you think you interact with another person, it’s how your perceived that is so important.
Think about that sentence, it’s not how YOU think you come across, it’s how you are perceived & received by the other person…….. hmm.
One of the best analogies of how you come across & are perceived is:
To know what someone is really like, watch how they:
- Talk to a waitress/waiter
- Handle themselves when they are late
- Respond to rush hour traffic
- Untangle Christmas tree lights
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How To Get Along With Other People
To get along with others, there are a few things to keep in mind:
Likable:
To be liked & to get along with people, you have to be a “likable” person yourself.
The old saying is: “To have friends, be friendly”.
Interest:
Become interested in the other person’s ideas & activities.
Direct conversation to the other individual’s interests, rather than talking about yourself.
As you become absorbed in their interests, they will become attentive to yours, & you will have a pleasant time together.
Like:
If you genuinely like people, enjoy being with them, talking with them, & like being helpful to them.
You will then find that people generally will like you even more.
When mutual liking exists, people get along with one another.
Names:
Practice remembering names.
Focus on the other person, so that their name will register.
Remember, a person’s name is important to them & knowing it will help you get long with them.
Easy:
Be easy to get along with.
Be a comfortable sort of person, so that there is no strain in being with you.
Be homey & down to earth.
Remember, it’s not always about you & you don’t have to always have your way.
Just be easy & NOT aggressive, bossy or a “take over” kind of person.
Just be easy going.
Stimulating:
Develop the quality of being stimulating with people.
If being with you makes people feel better & more alive, you will be sought after.
People will want to be with you when you stimulating because of how they feel when they’re with you.
Sensitive:
Avoid being on edge & sensitive, so that you are easily hurt: people instinctively shy off from the ‘super-sensitive’ type, fearing they’ll start up an unpleasant reaction.
Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, & you’ll get along with people.
People don’t want to have to “walk on egg shells” around you, it’s a drain to everyone.
Scratchy:
Relationships & interactions with people deteriorate when a person has “scratchy” elements.
This means, don’t rub people the wrong way, be relaxed, agreeable, easy going & happy, not moody.
Heal:
Sincerely attempt to heal on an honest basis with every misunderstanding, that you may have with other individuals.
Mentally & spiritually drain off your grievances & maintain an attitude of goodwill with everyone.
Keep an “it’s all good” attitude & get rid of grudges forever.
Do:
Love people & do things for them.
Perform unselfish & outgoing acts of friendship.
These sincere self-giving acts inevitably leads to pleasant personal interactions & relations with people.
As the saying goes: “Do for others, what you want them to do for you”.
Do for others, but never expect anything in return because that’s not “doing”, that’s just being selfish.
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These ‘personal relations’ tasks are a learned behavior & needs to come naturally from you, because otherwise it will show the minute you let your guard down & your spotted “showing yourself” when you least expect it.
Work on it & practice everyday with a positive attitude & interest, to be a better person & eventually you will.
Getting along with others is really an art & skill of positive, giving interactions & having a warm heart, being genuine & caring, about others.
Do it everyday & you’ll see how people around you start to change their thoughts about you.
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“Be a fountain, not a drain”……….
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