“How Am I Suppose to Know!” | Here is how to determine what’s LIKE or LOVE.

 

 

“HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO KNOW!”

 

 

 

 

 

In the last few Blogs, I’ve written about relationships & friendships, in generalities. 

 

 

These topics stemmed from various questions & comments I’ve receive via emails & personal messages.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today’s topic of “How am I suppose to know”…  is also based from feedback I’ve received & been asked.

 

 

 

 

 

 

However, first I must share a ‘disclaimer’ of sorts, that I am not a formally trained marriage counselor or relationship expert 

First, I am a formally trained nurse, which in itself is not an expert in these topics at all.

Second my additional formal training as a Counselor, at least allows me to be “politically correct” in sharing a few thoughts here & there…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So with that said, let’s get to the topic today of Like / Love.

*NOTE:  The information to be presented is different for each individual circumstance & is not meant as a ‘cure all’ method.

 

 

 

 

So, where do we start?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Having a relationship of any kind, first starts with first an attraction of some sort, from another person’s: message, looks, career, stance on a topic, etc.  

 

Regardless of the sudden pause that caused that attraction, it made you notice, listen, & eventually listen to that individual.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Eventually, that initial attraction moved to an admiration.  From possibly how their message “got to you”, hit your mind &/or heart in a way that enabled you to relate to their words & meaning of their message.

 

 

This admiration progressed to your following (not stalking) & looking forward to more information from that individual, to learn more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From here, the admiration progresses to a respect of that individual’s knowledge, content, consistency, & feeling of internal ‘safeness’ you have when you listen to them or even when you are around them.

 

 

From this point, your respect may progress to a mutual like from possible reciprocated contacts/comments, etc., you may have possibly shared, & heard replies from in return.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now from here, your mutual like between you, may remain as just that, someone you like, respect, admire, & peaked your attraction from when your paths crossed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Like, in an aquaintance, friendship, relationship, all have different meanings for the various individuals.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love, as well in a friendship, relationship, etc, all have different meanings based on what type, degree & stage of the Like.

 

 

 

 

The pattern of how you progress, is different for everyone, & may be very different than what I’ve indicated above.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This can be confusing can’t it.

 

 

 

 

This is why so many people are all in their various situations & may have the problems they have:  Like & Love has very different meanings, levels & stages for everyone.

 

 

 

 

 

Because there are so many different meanings, I am only here to share some thoughts of what Love is & is not.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HERE IS HOW TO DETERMINE BETWEEN LIKE & LOVE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

• Love:  will always believe.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is loyal no matter what the cost.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never glad about injustice.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  will always defend.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  does not hold grudges.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is not irritable or touchy.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  does not demand it’s own way.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  will hardly even notice, when others do it wrong.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  will always expect the best.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never rude.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never selfish.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never arrogant.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never proud.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never boastful.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never envious.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never jealous.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is kind.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is very patient.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is very giving.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is respectful.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is passionate.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  is never forced.

 

 

 

 

• Love:  gives you peace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These thoughts, are just my “short” list of thoughts, to help you decipher where you are at & where you should be, before you identify your feelings, thoughts & expectations.

 

 

 

 

 

What love is NOT, expectations!

 

 

 

 

 

Love comes from the heart, & not from your mind.  The indications listed above will come naturally from your heart, & NOT expected, as a checklist, from your mind.

 

 

 

 

Only you, know what’s going on inside of your heart & mind, in order to distinguish between the two.

 

 

 

 

If you still “aren’t sure”, read the notes again, but this time pausing between each fact to let it absorb.

 

 

 

 

How will you know the difference between Like & Love?

 

 

 

 

 

 

You will ‘just know’…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Love is what what you say, love is what you do”….

 

 

See you tomorrow…

 

 

 

I do hope you have enjoyed this message today & it has inspired you do stand up & make a difference in your own life.  Please feel free to leave me a comment below to share how this has made you think about your own situation.

 

 

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