Are you having another rough day, because you have an empty heart?
Have the challenges in your life still seem to be nothing but daily hurdles you find yourself forced to jump over-again & again.
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Handling heartbreaking losses, dealing with life changes, losing your job, losing your best friend, is never, never easy. That constant fog is still there.
Will you get over it? Simply put, no you won’t but, you will eventually learn to get through one day at a time.
As a nurse in my long career, I’ve seen & been involved in some of the most horrific sudden losses, to the expected end of a battle.
But regardless how major or minor that loss is, its always the same most devastating feeling for those left behind.
So then the question too is: “Now What”?
Moving forward after such a loss (regardless of the loss issue), almost seems like a disrespectful move to who’s gone, doesn’t it.
Moving forward or living sometimes seems like an act of not caring that they’re gone, I know & YOU know what I’m talking about, but it’s not.
Picking yourself back up from such a devastating loss, is something you are going to have to make yourself do. Your best friend can’t help you, you family can’t help you, no one can except you. And no, it’s not disrespectful, it’s responsible for you to get up.
Ways to overcome your devastation, loss, sadness, of any kind, is to within time after no have given yourself to grieve & get through all the questions that associated with a loss. are here. Keep reading.
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Surround yourself with positives.
Fill your life around you with positive people, positive music, positive books, & positive situations. Stay away from negatives, sad music ballads, TV or movies or news. Positives make you feel better & as you feel better you begin to lose your grip of feeling so down & depressed.
Be active.
Physical activity can lift you out of you sad depressive feelings. Start being more active, enjoy the outdoors, especially when it’s sunny. If your garden only reminds you of who or what you just lost, dig in & keep it going. BUT, add your own items & variations to give that garden YOUR input of style & taste. Then you won’t tend to start creating shrine, which can happen, IF you don’t change it up & add your own personality to the mix. *Activity energizes your mind & causes it to secrete healthy endorphins that will assist in your healing.
Eat healthy.
Pay attention to this, even if you don’t want to hear it: Eat plenty of fruits & vegetables. Avoid caffeine, sugar, junk food, & alcohol. Why? Fruits & vegetables have natural sugars, no caffeine or depressants, & other minerals in them. Fruits & vegetables work to boost your body & mind, by also keeping your blood sugar at a regular level. The avoidable list: have sharp jumps & drops in your blood sugar due to all the added sugars & caffeine, the alcohol, acts as depressant.
Get enough sleep.
Exhaustion adds to depression. Sleep refreshes the body & uplifts the spirit & aids in the energy both physically & emotional for you to handle daily issues. Avoid too much sleep, this is a sign of avoiding important issues that can lead to your becoming depressed. If you find your just too exhausted & need more sleep, the real reason for this can be found in the first 3 examples listed above.
Write out your feelings.
In a prior blog, I wrote about getting your trapped emotions that are stuck inside of you, out on paper. See link: http://buildingabrandonline.com/howilearnedtogetbackup/what-are-you-doing-with-your-depression-grief-&-discouragement/
Getting through devastation & loss are only accomplished in small steps & take a great deal of time.
There are many more thoughts to help steer you in the right direction, but, you’re not ready yet & yes I will continue this journey with you & add more thoughts at another time.
For now, keep an open mind, be positive, & get through each day, one day at a time.
“You have to take control of your feelings, before they take control of you”…………
See you tomorrow……..
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I honestly have been through this myself. I was in a tragic accident last year & lost my job / income, my health & mobility. I was devastated, the bills never stopped coming in & I was drowning in debt. Sound somewhat familiar?
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“And no, it’s not disrespectful, it’s responsible for you to get up.”
I love that you say this. I believe that after a loss or when we are going through something…indeed it is our responsibility to get up. Dwelling on our loss is not doing anyone justice…especially the person who is gone.
Well stated Kristin, it isn’t disrespectful, if you don’t get up now, you never will. Thank you for your insight, I love your thoughts.
Linda
Thank you for writing this post. When we are born we do not come with a set of instructions that tell you how to deal with your grief and this is as close as getting those instructions as it comes.
Nancy thank you. You’re right, life doesn’t come with instructions & many subjects are never discussed. This is the problem with everyone, when we really need help, we’re too shocked to know what to do or where to ask. I hope this helps.
Well said Linda you have provided us with timely advice on how to recover and move on from difficult emotional situations. Thank your for your post.
Thank you Stephen I appreciate your thoughts. This is one of those times in life that also have no instructions of what to do except freeze, lock up & hibernate, all of which is the wrong thing to do. I hope these help for some & I ‘ll periodically re-visit this topic & further share some additional steps.
You profound wisdom knows no bounds Linda. You have a gift … and I can’t thank you enough for sharing it in your posts.
Erica thank you, your kind words mean a lot coming from you. Many areas in life have no instructions & this is one time it’s essential to have some guidance, in order to be able to survive the loss itself. It’s an area I have, & will continue to come back to periodically with more thoughts. Thank you.
Loads of thought provoking advice, thanks Linda.
Thank you Chris & Rhonda for visiting. Food for thought, it’s an area of unclear direction that most have no idea where to turn. Thanks.
Wonderful Post Linda..your blog is a great platform for you to get your years of experience out to the world..there is so much that you can share! Thank you!
Thanks you Gail. It’s true, it is a great way to share. I can’t tell you how many families I’ve sat with to guide them to getting back up & share directions in what to do next. It’s a deafening time to go through because you’re numb & nothing generally computes. Thanks for visiting.
wow really resonated with this post, thanks Linda 🙂
Thanks Helen, I’m glad you were able to pick up some thoughts. I appreciate your thoughts.