“I’ve Got Plenty Of Friends!” | How to have a solid happy friendship

 

 

“I’VE GOT PLENTY OF FRIENDS!”

Going through turbulent times in your life, it’s so important and comforting to know you have your friends with you all the way through the rough times. 

But many people don’t have that, their ‘so-called friends’ suddenly disappear when times get rough for you and there you stand alone. 

That time when you realize your life as you knew it is gone, passed away, fell apart, walked away, or even cheated you. 

There isn’t much worse of a time than the eerily feeling of complete loneliness when you really need your friends, only to find they’re non-existent when you need them most.

What happened, how could this possibly be when you “had so many friends around” you all the time and “you all did so much together”? 

Realistically, they weren’t really friendship material if they’re not beside you now. 

You should never have to call a friend for help when they’ve seen what has happened to you.

Friends come in all styles; givers, takers, comforters, drainers and those who are always ‘there for you’, until you really do need them.

But, what kind of friend are YOU, are you the type you would want for yourself, do you reciprocate the friendship?

I have found, it may be more my problem than theirs because I have always been way too trusting and believe what people are saying, easily overlook what they’re doing – or not doing. 

So that’s on me for being a ‘friend’ when they apparently only really want a ‘part time’ friend or only needed you to do something to better their life. 

Even in business, there are those who only need your presence for their advancement and if you’re not careful, you may misinterpret their intentions. 

It’s not personal, it’s business and that’s okay if you know from the start the difference between friendship and business colleagues. 

Either way, you still need to treat that person as you would anyone else, with respect, honesty, trust and communication, because that’s who you are, aren’t you.

As adults whether your male / female, we all seem to just want someone we can trust, talk to, have common interests, have a laugh with and occasionally to do those silly things together while having fun.

So, today, take a look at your ‘friendships’ and no secrets will be shared that you have with your buddies, but really look at your friendships to see if you are really friend “material” yourself and if your friendships are solid happy ones.

Here are some hints for you to think about to be sure your friendships are healthy and not just one sided:

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How to have a solid happy friendship

If you’re running late, call them, don’t leave them wondering. 

Communicate, they don’t know what’s going on with you, so call them.

Don’t establish a friendship based on mutual “dislikes”, that will just become a negative one.

Make friends even if you don’t think you need them. 

You never know when you’ll find a gem of a wonderful person.

Seek out quiet people.  They actually have lot to  say, if you say something first.

Look people in the eye when you talk to them, ‘show’ them you’re talking to “them” and not looking around for who or what else is going on.

Be one who says positive things about others.

Learn to tell a good honest story.

Ask other people about themselves and show your interest in their story.

Be happy for others in their good fortune.  Don’t be selfish or jealous, just be happy for them.

Be sure your caring for others, & remember this also includes doing for others. 

Friends give and receive, it should never be one sided.

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Know when to say goodbye, but say it graciously. 

If your “friend” is a taking and not a giver, always negative and rarely positive, it’s time to let go and move on.

 

Friendships are suppose to feel comforting and non stressful, it’s your life, so surround yourself with those who believe your morals and standards.

Carefully listen to what your friend says, pay attention to key words, key actions and moods. 

Are they struggling without saying so, are they a little off their normal style, do they appear over stressed? 

There is so much you can read in your friend if you know how, even without “knowing them very long”. 

People are constantly giving off hints of how they REALLY are at a particular moment without ever saying a word about it.  So, LISTEN CAREFULLY.

Treat your friend as you want to be treated. 

Speak to them kindly, show them respect as you would want to be by your friend. 

Don’t be a ‘snapper’, watch how you talk to your friends. 

Remember, how you treat others speaks volumes about who your really are as a person.

*The key to a happy friendship is just like the key to any relationship; communicate, be giving, be honest, be respectful, be observant, be trusted and most of all, be positive not draining.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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“When you’re up, your friends know who you are.  When you’re down, you know who your friends are”…

 

 

 

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