“Why Do I Always Get Criticized?” | How to give constructive criticism

 

 

 

 

“WHY DO I ALWAYS GET CRITICIZED?”

Some folks just can’t resist saying: “What in the world are you thinking”, or “why did you do (or say) that”?!

 

 

Others can’t resist critiquing or correct anything you do.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Most people just want to help, & if they see someone doing something they don’t think is right, they’ll correct them.

 

 

 

 

 

There are those who are just so helpful they can’t help but give someone else some assistance or advice even if they aren’t sure themselves because they want to help

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It’s sort of a neighborly thing to do, isn’t it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

However, there are those who just have to jump in & correct everyone on every little thing, whether it’s any of their business or not. 

 

Do you know anyone like that?  I’m sure you do.

 

 

 

 

 

 

These helpful soles can’t help themselves because they may want you to know they know more than you. 

 

Or, perhaps they know how they’ve done something which worked for them & you certainly should be doing it that way too. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Most people just want to help, don’t they.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Okay enough said, you get where I’m going with these examples.

 

 So if you do want to give someone advice or “constructive criticism”, how can you pull that off without sounding like a know it all or even wind up hurting their feelings?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To give someone constructive helpful advice can be very tricky, because remember, criticism is just a way of expressing your disapproval & judgment of whatever they said or did.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hmm, to criticize or not to criticize…….  Awkward.

 

 

 

 

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How to give constructive criticism

 

 

 

 

 

FIRST, Consider your motive.

What do you really want to accomplish? 

Is it any of your business? 

Is it selfish? 

Is it from anger or hurt feelings? 

Will what you say have any benefit to them or others? 

Do you REALLY know where that person is coming from 

Does this have to do with you?

Ask for a moment to speak with the other person first.

Be flexible to their time. 

Just say “I have something I have been thinking about, & I want to share it with you”. 

Ask them if they even want any “constructive criticism” from you.

Set aside all your expectations & accusations.

Be open to hearing the others reasoning. 

Don’t argue. 

Knowing your motives will help you communicate without arguing. 

How should you handle a situation, that in your opinion should render a little constructive criticism?

Write down what you will say.

To give yourself time before reacting, think about what you have to say & why. 

Start with any affirmations that are sincere about the other person. 

Be sure to use facts, opinions, intuitions & feelings. 

Read these over several times & even rewrite it until it’s on point of what you want to say.  

Make sure that what you want to criticize is not off the subject of their message, & if it is,  let it go.

Thank the other person for listening.

Acknowledging their time & listening to your “opinion” is being polite & respective.

Accept their response & consumption.

When you give constructive criticism to someone of your “opinions”, they may or may not use your information. 

There may be many reasons you are not aware of as to why they do not heed your criticism. 

You need to accept their decision, refrain from being negative & simply move on.

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We all love to help, but just be sure of why you feel it’s necessary to give an individual constructive criticism, & ask them first if they even want any thoughts from you.

Constructive Criticism can be very tricky if you are not careful. 

So don’t just give it to someone without following some of the thoughts listed above, FIRST.

Many people love to learn new things & get others opinions, but some folks do not.

I, for one love to hear new things from others, because that’s how I can grow & learn about life, things & people. 

 

 

 

 

We all should consider new avenues of learning everyday & in any way, although, I am only one person of the billions of people in this world. 

Just be sensitive & aware, because if you don’t know what you’re talking about when you’re trying to give someone your ‘constructive criticism’, you could wind up with egg on your face.

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“Never do something permanently foolish, just because you are temporarily upset or opinionated”…

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