“IT’S JUST NOT THE SAME ANYMORE!”
Part 1
For the LADIES, today…
Over the past several days, I’ve been around a lot of different friends, family & others. Many of us have, haven’t we.
In amongst the activities, fun, laughter, food & catching up, came yet another familiar discussion each day from several different circles of people.
“It’s just not the same anymore!” He (they) “just doesn’t seem to pay attention or treat me like they use to”.
Now that, is a very loaded statement & one that should be commented on very carefully.
We all have our OWN preferences of how we are treated, how our time together is & how our relationship(s) are going.
Whether you have a husband, wife, boyfriend, partner, BFF / bestie, or you just have inexperience interacting with others you do care about, being special with/to anyone is an awareness you cannot take lightly.
YOU know people get hurt easily, feel offended sometimes at the drop of the hat.
Hormonal or not, Woman ARE so different when it comes to their priorities, feelings, needs & thinking, aren’t we ladies!
BEWARE MEN, this may be a deep subject, & you may be in over your head.
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So, MEN LISTEN UP, THIS BLOG IS FOR YOU!
Men, guys, other halves, BFF’s. etc., today I want to help you, save your life or get ‘out of jail’ here, with a few thoughts & suggestions.
What is this all about?
What it’s NOT, is a clinical do & don’t list of what to do.
What it IS, are compiled thoughts / suggestions of things you may not have thought about.
I will say this,
- IF you find one or more of these appealing & are willing to try it, you’ll find yourself on the ‘good list’.
- IF you find these corny & think they would never work for her, then you’re on your own…
HOW TO MAKE SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE, FOR SPECIAL
Ask her input, before making decisions.
Encourage her, to take time out with her friends.
Find a way, to save something from every paycheck.
Call her, if you’re going to be more that 15 minutes late.
Write out a list, of all your important documents, & where you keep them.
Shave, on your day off.
Hold her hand, when you lead the prayer.
Make sure, you refill the car gas tank, checked the tires & it’s always in good running condition.
Be sure, to keep your home repaired & in good order.
Understand, when she forgets to enter a check in the ledger.
Buy her & plant, a rose bush as a surprise.
Occasionally, eat quiche & dainty desserts with her, at a Victorian restaurant.
Give her a back & shoulder rub, with NO expectation of making love.
Ask her out on a date, & plan the complete date yourself, including making the reservations.
Have a good conversation, even when you’d rather read the paper or watch TV.
Hold her warmly, when she cries & tell her you’re here for her.
Carefully, clean or polish her shoes for special occasions.
Ask her to dance, when you hear that love song you both share.
Remember, to carry Kleenex or a clean handkerchief when you go to a romantic movie.
Tell her, she will always be beautiful when she worries about getting older.
These are only the short list of thoughts you can use to help make her feel special.
A woman’s thoughts, priorities, needs & desires, ARE SO DIFFERENT THAN YOURS.
Don’t jump in over your head…
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DON’T EVER ASSUME:
- she knows, because she doesn’t
- she doesn’t want to talk, because she does
- she’s tough & can handle IT, because she shouldn’t have to alone
- she wants to do it herself, because she doesn’t
- she can do what she wants, because she doesn’t
- she just knows the way you are & accepts it, because she may hate it
- she feels important to you, because she doesn’t
- she loves your unshaven look, because she just may hate it
- she knows you’re always late, because she doesn’t
Guys, other halves, friends; relationships are a 2 way street & require communication, respect, sacrifices, compromises & show that you care.
Relationships are NOT about assumptions.
Again, men & women think nothing alike, do not have the same priorities, do not have the same types of feelings, do not have the same thoughts.
Take the time to be more attentive now, before you’ve worn her out from trying to understand you.
We’re not your mother, we’re not you keeper, we’re not your servant.
We are your partner, your lover, your confidant, your best friend & your #1 fan.
However, we can also be your worst enemy.
So, proceed with caution, take the hints, try the suggestions (yes, more than once), & get it through your head, women do NOT think like you.
I’ve tried here to PUT THE FIRE OUT for you & hope you heed the advice!
What ever you decide to do from this point on, after having been officially informed & warned: GOD SPEED!
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“Never, push a loyal person to the point where they no longer give a damn”….
Tomorrow:
PART 2
FOR THE MEN…
See you tomorrow….
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Linda – you bring up some very good points in this post. It seems men and women both – we all assume to some extent – some more than others. But this is an excellent reminder what NOT to take for granted and is actually a blueprint to having a better relationship with your significant other. This is one that needs to be shared with others. Thank you for this value 🙂
Oh great Post Linda. you certainly brought out some important points that get the tick in my book. Isn’t it amazing how different men and woman are in their thinking, I have to say the older I get the more I realise it to be true. Fantastic idea doing this for the guys, as I am sure many men out there have had a disappointed partner and don’t even know what it is they have done wrong, or what they have or have not done full stop. (Take note guys) great advice here. Thanks Linda and I had to laugh out loud on a few of them because they so hit home…LOL thanks again.
Hahaha, I have to laugh, Rhonda, you hit the nail on the head!! Thank you for reading & sharing your thoughts.
I remember a book a while back, where Men were from Mars, Women were from Venus. TBH. I’ve never read the book and haven’t been in a relationship in a very very long time. I’ve had two relationship experiences. And I guess I never forgave or forgot.
But the concept is a valid point in all your suggestions. Communications is highly important in all relationships. And should never be forgotten.
Thank you Linda
Thanks Dave for your input. I remember that book well & considered back then a little ‘racy’. We truly are wired different & if we just understood that from the beginning, things would get off to a better start. I gress about communication, in every type of relationship, it’s a must.