I realize that asking such a personal question for some of you, may crossing the line a bit.
But, I’m not asking for me, I’m asking “what you are doing with you depression, grief & discouragement”, for YOU.
When your life changes suddenly from a traumatic loss of a loved one, financial loss, loss of a job, loss of your home or car, an accident, and an ongoing parade of challenges & obstacles, what are you doing about it.
Not dealing with it & simply ignoring it, will not make it go away.
This is why I ask you this question, because you DO have to deal with it & face it, yourself.
Where do you start? I’ve written about this many times, 3 steps just to start:
1)Alone Time, 2) Consoling & Listening Time, 3)Absorbing the reality-Alone Time.
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After you’ve had these 3 times to be alone, listen & absorb what’s happened, then you can start another phase.
There’s a lot in your head, much is still foggy, others are not yet ready to approach yet. I know, I’ve been there & we all go through this differently.
But now, you need to do this next part completely alone…
THIS is extremely important now, & it’s going to be hard.
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Write out your feelings. Emotions trapped inside of you only increase depression. Getting them out on paper can release the internal pressure.
Write about your anger, grief, confusion, loss, stress, emptiness, what to do, pain & anything else that’s bothering you
Be very honest, elaborate as much as you like, but get it out on paper. Do not throw away the paper(s) when your done. Fold it & put it away somewhere.
No, this is NOT stupid or a waste of time. This is part of the process of getting back up, moving forward, getting control of yourself again.
Many of you ask, “How do you get back up, what do you do, how did you do it, how do you face it”………?
This, is where you start, read the above again, & again. I’m am telling you HOW to do this; to face it, get up & how I did it.
Tragedy’s do not come with instructions ‘of what to do next’. But, from someone who has gone through this, I’m giving you the instructions.
Now, that paper of your feelings you wrote down, I indicated that you should fold it up & put it away somewhere, that’s correct. Do not look at it anymore after today, ever, for any reason, never look at it again.
But, one year from now, I want you to go get that paper & read your thoughts & feelings that you wrote down, by yourself with no distractions.
I want you to then realize how far you have come in that year or time of enormous grief, pain & despair, to where you are now, at the moment you read it again.
The only way you are going to believe how far you have come in the year from your tragedy, is to see it in your writing for yourself.
No, it will not take you back & ruin all or any progress you’ve made, your note will be your confirmation, your affirmation of what you have accomplished.
My friend, you have to believe in yourself that you CAN do it, no one else can possibly does this for you, but you.
You can, you will, you have. Hang on to this belief & you’re already on your way…
“Accept what is, let go of what was, & have faith in what will be”………
See you tomorrow……..
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I honestly have been through this myself. I was in a tragic accident last year & lost my job / income, my health & mobility. I was devastated, the bills never stopped coming in & I was drowning in debt. Sound somewhat familiar?
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thanks for sharing Linda! I like the idea “writing out your feelings”!
Thank you Morgan. The act of writing the lists helps in so many areas, with the first, getting it out & on paper. It frees you from within. Next it helps you see where your stuck. Next it shows unrelated issues they may have overlapped. It’s an interesting exercise I’ve done with various grief groups, & the response has been cathartic.
I love this idea of writing out your feelings. Writing is so therapeutic and your advice is right on.
You are so right Kristin. Writing them out also does not hurt anyone’s feelings because only you know your thoughts at the time. Thanks Kristin.
Great advice for life because we all face challenges. Thanks for sharing.
Yes Annette we all do face challenges, & some face them every single day. Thanks for sharing your insight.
For me, this is a great reminder for me to return to journaling. Such a powerful practice when done consistently and authentically. Thanks, Linda.
Incredible idea David, to journal daily. That keeps all the build up down & put on paper. Thank you for sharing.
Great advice Linda and like Morgan and Kristin I like to write. I have never suffered from depression but I have been through my share of set backs and diffiulties. We have to find a way to move on. Thanks Linda.
Absolutely Susan, what ever works for the individual to put those feelings somewhere, other than kept inside themselves or at someone else. Thank you for sharing.