Sometimes it’s so easy to point the finger at someone when they mess up, to blame them and enhance the issues they; ‘WOW, they really screwed up!’ Believe it or not, some folks dwell on that particular ‘boo boo’ and before you know it, that individual is known as the person that always makes mistakes.
So before long as the story of the mistake seems to spread around the work area, and those who really don’t know that individual very well, have gone with the flow and believed it. Now this person who did something wrong regardless of how big or small it was in the first place, has a reputation for not being able to do anything right.
There aren’t many reading this that haven’t been witness or in the mix of the traveling communication know well as rumors … People hearing from someone else the latest misfortunes of someone they do not even know very well.
This is actually sad because when you think about it, everyone has made mistakes at one time or another. In fact, mistakes are how we all learn, how we grow, how we practice, how we actually shape our experience and skills.
What if we reframed this ‘mistake’ and looked at it another way and deemed that mistake are a learning experience. What if we weren’t aware of a minor interference that may have caused that mistake, and in fact, which others were not aware of that may have happened.
Here is an example that sports enthusiasts can maybe relate to, but even if you are not a sports enthusiast, I believe you will see where I am going with this real example:
Many of the Nation’s population witnessed an NFL Football Playoff Championship recently and like any game, someone has to win and someone has to lose. In this one, the game winning field goal was missed by the Field goal Kicker by hitting the upright (goal post).
Now in this particular Football Game, of course the negative backlash about the Kicker’s mistake spread like wildfire and even the rumors of he should be fired! However, what if there was another side to it, what if there was another factor that altered the miss.
Any altered factor possibility was never discussed or immediately or even imagined, and the game quickly ended with celebrations on one side and blame on the other. The winning team took the field and greatly overshadowed the losing team because in Playoffs the conversations immediately move on to the next big thing, the next opponents and matchups. So as all moved forward, that Field Goal Kicker was labled as the failure who caused the entire team to lose their shot at moving on to the next round towards the Super Bowl.
Interestingly, they didn’t label any OTHER players on the losing team as the failure who caused the entire team to lose the Championship. For example, the players who dropped passes, the runners who fumbled the ball, the lineman who missed tackles, the Quaterback who over threw the passes to the receivers or the Team Head Coach who called the wrong plays. No is was deemed entirely on the last person who made a mistake, the place kicker.
Here is where all of this gets interesting and what happened later,
things have surfaced, even a video footage in slow motion, that was taken down within a day, of what clearly happened since the game was played. Some of the winning team players reported an interesting comment to the press:
https://abc7chicago.com/sports
“On Parkey’s kick, several Eagles said defensive tackle Treyvon Hester touched it.”
BLOCKED NOT MISSED
However, on Monday, the NFL officially changed the 43-yard miss to a block by Eagles defensive tackle Treyvon Hester. The lineman barely got a finger on the ball, but it changed the trajectory enough that the kick hit the upright, dropped down to the crossbar and then out.
“Me and Haloti (Ngata) … we got penetration, got the hand up like coach always says,” Hester said, according to the Philadelphia Daily News. “Tipped off my fingertips. Felt good … (but) actually, I thought I didn’t get enough of it, I thought it was going to go in. When I saw it going in, I turned back around (away from the goal posts). Then I heard everybody screaming, I was like, oh, (expletive) … he missed it.”
In the immediate aftermath of the game, it doesn’t appear that many people picked up on the fact that Hester got a hand on the ball. Parkey, who had been under fire in Chicago well before the game for missing a league-high 10 kicks during the regular season, didn’t shy away from the media after the contest.
The Lesson
Think before believing , you do NOT know the whole story…
If there is anything I can leave you with is this, you were not in that person’s shoes, you were not a part of the incident, you do not know the whole story. Most importantly, you yourself have also make plenty of mistakes since you were born. So let’s look instead at what that particular person has done right.
When someone does something wrong, don’t forget the things they did right …
linda frame
