How Are You Dealing With Anger?

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I’m here to talk about the challenges, the hurdles, those ‘nothing goes right days and the set backs that jump in your way unexpectedly.  You may even feel like that ‘black cloud’ hanging over your head seems to have your name on it.  

If a particular topic of the day here doesn’t suit you or doesn’t speak to you, that’s fine, maybe tomorrows topic will seem more interesting to your issues in your life.  Why, because I have been through a lifetime of rock bottom challenges, and I want to share how you can crawl back up successfully.

When you’re dealing with loss, hurt, life changes, stress, there’s a part inside you that is slowly accumulating anger. After the initial shock of, grief, loss and frustration, you then start feeling angry. 

You have emerged those feelings now into anger about your loss, being hurt, the life changing events you’ve had to go through and the stress that’s mounting up because you can’t keep up.  If not dealt with, it will continue to build and build.

So, how are you dealing with that anger?  Are you ignoring it, are you just adding to it, what are you doing with it besides taking it out on others.

Okay, some of you are denying you have any anger at all and that’s alright, but I assure you if you experienced even just one of the mentioned feelings, you are harboring anger.

Even if you’re “not” having any anger, I’m going to talk here about HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGER, should you or someone else you care about is going through this.  I had to nail this down about myself while I was going through my life changing issues.  I had to be honest with myself & you have to do this too, it makes a huge difference in you emotionally and physically.

 Admit your anger.    This is the first step in resolving anything – admitting it.  If you’re angry, be honest with yourself about it.  It’s ok, you need to admit it.

Evaluate your anger.    Honestly ask yourself, “what triggers” my anger? When am I most likely to feel anger”?

Choose your perception.    You have to slow yourself down and put the anger trigger in perspective.  Turn the triggering situation, into a positive situation.

Calm yourself down.    If your anger is getting out of control, lower your voice, sit down, take a deep breath.  If you’re still not calm, get out and walk it out.

Watch your words and actions.    When you’re angry, you easily say and do things you’ll regret later.  Watch carefully what comes out of your mouth because you can never take them back and an “I’m sorry” will never erase those words and what you’ve done.

Work out your anger.    Angry states produces adrenaline which has to get out.  So go work out your anger; go walk, chop wood, weed a garden, mow the yard.

Talk about your anger.     Take responsibility for your feelings.  Be direct and honest without blaming or attacking.  IF you’re overreacting, admit it.  The better you can honestly communicate about your anger, the more you can control it.

Never let the ‘sun go down’ on your anger.    Commit yourself to resolving your anger as soon as possible.  Unresolved anger turns into bitterness, revenge, or even both.  The sooner you handle your anger, the better.  And please, never go to bed angry, life is way too short.

Seek help.    Be honest and realistic, if your anger persists or is out of control consistently, get help immediately.  Talk to a counselor, pastor or physician and develop a more intense therapy plan.  No, you’re not crazy, there are times though that an outside professional opinion makes the smartest sense.

Be smart, be safe, be honest and realistic about your anger issues.  Anger will change your attitude, personality and damage your body more than anything else.  Don’t ashamed of your anger, get rid of it through the steps I’ve outlined.

If you KNOW you “have a short fuse”, then do something about it now.  Walking around knowing you “have a short fuse” is dangerous, for you and for those around you, both emotionally AND physically.  A “short fuse” is not an excuse, it’s a threat, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, NOW.

“You have to take control of your anger & your feelings, before the take control of you”…………

See you tomorrow

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