“OMG, They Just Told Everyone My Private Information!” | How to keep a confidence with someone.

 

 

“OMG, They just told everyone my private information!”

 

 

 

 

Do you know what a confidence is?  Do you REALLY know what it is?

 

Confidence is merely a trust or reliance with someone, a trusting relationship, & the assurance that someone will keep a secret.

 

That’s “WILL, not might, keep a secret.”

 

 

So, do YOU keep a confidence unconditionally or just when it’s convenient for you to get their information?

 

OR, do you announce it to the world!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When you’re making progress toward developing a trusting relationship with someone, or if you’re already in a close relationship (friends, partners, intimate or not) it’s crucial that you keep a confidence, no matter what.

 

 

 

There is absolutely nothing that will ruin a relationship quicker, than the other person with a ‘loose” tongue.

 

 

When someone tells you information they told you in trust, in confidence, there is NO going back, no forgiving, no matter how simple or small.

 

 

The person, your close friend, told you those things out of the trust they have for you & you alone.

 

 

 

So, why do people seem to not keep a secret?

 

 

Those “tell all” people, just want the attention of knowing ‘all the scoop’, but bottom line: they were not trustful in the first place.

 

 

Were you played / or used?  Maybe, some folks can’t help themselves, sadly.

 

 

You may not have known them as well as you thought.  If this has happened to you, I know exactly how you feel & it’s not very comfortable.

 

 

 

 

Some of us have trouble understanding those who have the ‘need’ to talk about others & can’t keep a confidence.

 

Personally I cannot tolerate it.  “What you say to me, stays with me.”  No I’m not a goody goody type person, I just understand what confidence is.

 

I developed this confidential motto & way of living, from my upbringing & in the career work that I do as a nurse that requires confidentiality.

 

For me, it’s just a habit, whatever information comes in, never comes out.

 

 

Although, we know so many are not not like that.  If you aren’t like that & able to keep it to yourself, then keep reading for some “food for thought” to help you help yourself, if you have a slip of the tongue tendencies.

 

 

 

 

 

So, here’s what I want you to know:

 

 

 

HOW TO KEEP A CONFIDENCE WITH SOMEONE

 

(The ONLY information you should ever reveal someone else, is if it passes the following criteria)

 

 

 

 

Is the true?

Is it kind?

Is it necessary to tell?

 

Is it beneficial to all concerned?

Do you have the other person’s permission to share their story?  (NEVER ASSUME)

IF you’re even tempted to divulge someone else’s business, use these questions I’ve listed above, as a Rule of Thumb.

IF the answer to ANY or all of these questions listed above is no, you are just asking for trouble if you pass it along to someone else.

IF you do go ahead & share the confident information someone has shared out their trust in you, they will eventually find out & your relationship may be over.

 

 

There are so many other life issues to concentrate on & give your energy to, than worrying about a close confident having a ‘loose tongue’.

Be respectful of others information & be proud they trusted you to share their deepest thoughts with you.

“Sometimes it’s just better to be alone, than to be in bad company”…..

 

 

 

 

 

I hope enjoyed today’s blog & were able to take something away from this subject.. Please leave me your comments below, I would love to hear them.  Most importantly, thank you for visiting my post.

 

 

 

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